That Awkward Moment: What to Say Exactly When Offered a Drink at a Work Event (and You’re Not Drinking)

It happens. You’re at a work conference, holiday party, or networking event. Someone approaches, maybe a colleague, your boss, or a client, drink in hand, and gestures to get you one, or asks, “What are you drinking?” If you’re choosing not to drink alcohol – for whatever reason – a little knot of social anxiety might tighten. What do I say? Will it be weird? Will they ask why?

Music Stops, world stops turning, you’re not drinking.

Deep breath. It’s way more common than you think, and handling it smoothly is easier than you imagine. This isn’t about making excuses; it’s about having a few simple, natural responses ready so you can bypass the awkwardness and get back to enjoying the event (or at least, navigating it professionally!).

We’re going to give you the exact phrases you can use. Find one or two that feel comfortable for you.

Why Does It Feel So Awkward Sometimes?

Let’s be real, alcohol is often a social lubricant, especially in some work cultures. Declining can feel like you’re breaking an unspoken rule or that people might assume things (you’re ill, pregnant, judging them, etc.). But honestly? Most people are just being polite and won’t think twice about your response if it’s delivered casually and confidently.

Your Go-To Phrases: Simple, Natural & Effective

The key is brevity and neutrality. You don’t owe anyone a lengthy explanation. Here are options ranging from super simple to slightly more informative:

Option 1: The Simple & Sweet Decline (Least Fuss)

These are perfect for quickly moving the conversation along.

• “No thanks, I’m good for now.” (Simple, polite, implies you might get one later even if you won’t).
• “Not right now, thank you.” (Clear, polite).
• “I’m all set, thanks!” (Friendly, implies you’re sorted).
• “Thanks, but I’m going to grab a water/soda first.” (Plausible, shifts focus).

Option 2: Offer an Alternative (Shows You Are Drinking Something)

If you already have a non-alcoholic drink or plan to get one.

• “I’ve actually got this [water/soda/juice], thanks!” (Hold up your current drink).
• “I’m sticking with water tonight, thank you.” (Clear, confident).
• “I’m driving later, so just soda water for me, thanks.” (Common, easily understood reason – only use if true and comfortable).
• “I’ll grab a [your NA drink choice] in a bit, thanks!”

Option 3: Slightly More Direct (If You’re Comfortable)

Use these only if they feel authentic to you and the situation.

• “I’m not drinking tonight, thanks.” (Direct, neutral).
• “I’m actually taking a break from alcohol right now.” (Common phrasing).

Option 4: The Deflection (Use Sparingly)

• “Maybe later, thanks!” (Can work, but might lead to them asking again. Best if you genuinely might want an NA drink later).

Pro Tip: Get Your Own Drink First!

Often the easiest way to avoid the offer entirely is to already have a non-alcoholic drink in your hand when you arrive or start mingling. Grab a soda water with lime, sparkling water, or juice. It visually signals you’re participating and makes the “What can I get you?” question less likely.

The Delivery Matters (Almost More Than the Words)

How you say it makes a huge difference:

• Keep it Brief: Don’t ramble or over-explain.
• Smile & Keep it Light: A simple smile makes the interaction positive.
• Make Eye Contact: Shows confidence.
• Confident Tone: Speak clearly, not apologetically.
• Move On Quickly: After responding, pivot the conversation back to work, the event, or ask them a question. Don’t linger on the drink offer.

What If They Ask “Why Aren’t You Drinking?”

This follow-up question can feel intrusive, but most people are just making conversation. Again, you don’t owe a detailed explanation. Keep it brief and vague:

• “Just don’t feel like it tonight.”
• “Taking a break.”
• “Got an early start tomorrow.”
• “Sticking to water for now.”
• Then immediately change the subject: “How’s that project going?” or “Did you see the presentation earlier?”

It’s Okay. Seriously.

Remember, choosing not to drink alcohol at a work event is perfectly normal and your personal choice. Whether it’s for health reasons, religious reasons, pregnancy, recovery, because you’re driving, have an early morning, or simply because you don’t want to – it’s valid.

Having a few go-to phrases ready removes the mental load and helps you navigate these moments smoothly and professionally. Pick what feels best, deliver it confidently, and focus on the purpose of the event – connecting with colleagues or clients. You’ve got this!